Love Signals
Books | Self-Help / Communication & Social Skills
David Givens
A world renowned anthropologist explores the nonverbal signs, signals, and cues human beings exchange to attract and keep their mates. As a medium of communication, Love's silent language predates speech by millions of years. Today, we still express emotions and feelings largely apart from words. The postures, gestures, and facial cues of attraction are universal, in all societies and cultures.According to Dr. Givens, courtship moves slowly though five distinct phases: attracting attention, recognition phase, conversation phase, touching phase, making love. Since potential mates "test" each other before uniting as one, courtship is a choreographed give and take of signs granting physical and emotional closeness.Love Signals is part enthnography and part how-to. Dr. Givens documents the little courting rituals witnessed in elevators, on subways, and in the workplace. He examines the essential role the face plays in courtship and how it can be optimally displayed. He decodes the body to find silent messages given off by shoulders, neck, arms, hands, waist, calves, ankles, feet, and toes. Dr. Givens analyzes expressive shapes, colors, and markings encoded in arm wear, shoulder wear, leg wear, and shoes. He deciphers the background messages of spaces, places and interiors to learn how environs help or hinder in the meeting process. Chemical cues emanating from aromas, tastes, steroids, sterols, and hormones strongly shape a partner's feelings, so they are explored as well.The book suggests ways to gaze, ways to read eyes across a room, and ways to sit, stand, align, walk dress, and lift a drink to participate in the fascinating adventure of finding, winning, and keeping a mate. Knowing the unspoken vocabulary of love signals will give readers an edge. What this means for courtship is that the reader becomes able to read unspoken motives, emotions, and feelings with great clarity and precision. The more readers know about the nonverbal idiom of attraction, the more likely they will find a loving, lasting partner.
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Author
David Givens
Pages
254
Publisher
Macmillan + ORM
Published Date
2006-01-10
ISBN
1429923474 9781429923477
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"This one is a hard one and I almost didn’t finish it. As a woman in STEM, I love lady scientists, but not this one. She just seemed so….late teens/early 20s for a mid-30 year old and she’s very quick to make snap judgements about people before she even interacts with them. Hudson is honestly carrying this whole book and the main reason I kept reading it. Almost every character felt more fleshed out than Allie did, which was disappointing. <br/><br/>Random Notes from my read <br/>* Allie is kind of judgmental. Like, extremely judgmental. And because why? One crap ex bf? <br/>* Allie is supposed to be in her 30s and her inner voice sounds maybe 16. I can’t quote the book, since this is an ARC, but she’s constantly saying things like “suck it”<br/>* She is so caught up in the supposed lie that he told, when she lies every other sentence to him. He didn’t even tell the lie he just didn’t correct the person interviewing him.<br/>* I like Hudson, a lot, but Allie just seems like….not a real person? Like the author is trying to make her a boy crazed teen when she’s a PhD and brilliant (supposedly). She’s falling for him “hard”, but nothing has really happened in the book yet. Wait, how am I at 52% and literally nothing has happened?<br/>* How is she in love already?? Nothing has happened <br/><br/><br/>Many thanks to Netgalley for providing me with the DRC and allowing me to provide my honest review<br/>"
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